Warm Recollections #40

More from the Bitz Files

As introduced here, these Warm Recollections are random cullings from thirty years of notes files…

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Don’t make mistakes you can’t undo.

Don’t become someone you can’t unbecome.

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There is something science fictional about Frank Lloyd Wright’s architecture, especially the civic buildings. The Monona Terrace in Madison feels like the community centre of a calm and peaceful people on a slightly better planet.

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I’m sure we’d all agree that McDonald’s do not make the finest hamburgers on the planet. On the other hand, if you want a Big Mac, then a Big Mac is what you want — and no amount of boutique sliders fashioned from Kobe beef and hand-seasoned by elves is going to hit the spot.

Similarly, a two-pump vanilla latté from Starbucks. Not the greatest coffee in the world, but it is what it is, and if that’s what you want, that’s where you’re going to get it. You don’t always want the best: sometimes you just want what you want.

This probably applies to people as well.

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When people say the sex was great, it’s often not so much a matter of what was being done to them, as how they themselves felt enabled to feel or be.

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Just as philosophy and science seek to take the observer out of the world, therapy seeks to take the loved one out of the relationship, and make it all about the person who loves. The other human barely exists, except as jigsaw pieces to fit into the lover’s consciousness. They are replaceable. Therapy hates the idea of romantic love, partly because therapy’s job is to repair and patch prior relationships.

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