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Were these deeper than usual, or is it my mood that made them seem so? I honestly can't tell.

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It's funny, I chose them more or less at random from the big pile, but looking at them now, they do seem quite... heavy!

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But not in a bad way! I don't always comment but I want you to know how much these musings mean to me. They often hit home at just the right moment, and they *always* leave me with something to reflect on. Thank you for sharing them with us—it’s so generous of you to give us a glimpse into your thoughts.

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On the first two…

Sometimes the trouble with others leaving is you can eventually end up drinking alone.

My partnership [not married but 20 years together] is something akin to circus plate spinning. We really do manage to keep a lot of plates going at once. Occasionally one gets dropped, but a replacement is soon back up.

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Good point on the first one... and I like the spinning plate analogy. So long as you've got more plates, and the willingness to keep spinning... it keeps going.

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We have, I think, a lifetime's supply of plates. The relationship seems to survive the occasional dropped bit of crockery very well.

The drinking alone is the bit I do not look forward to. Eventually it must happen to someone.

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Dr Frankenmum is an untapped gem

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What even is that?

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"You don't have to still be alive to be somebody's mother"

There's probably a great horror-comedy in there about a Frankenmum

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Oof. Definitely seeing a thread running through these. There is definitely danger in living an unexamined life, but examine too… clinically, and it becomes unextraordinary.

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Yes, this is a pretty heavy selection, I realize now!

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I love this "The deepest eyes reflect back the person you should be, not the one you are."

It's a similar sentiment to that expressed by Henry Rollins in "Low Self Opinion"

https://youtu.be/rKb6Ik0Jm3s?si=VE4RTM-1eho-nw1N

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I shall go listen...

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Do you see the comment I see

When I see you commenting on me?

The comment I see is so, so different

Believe me!

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"That’s how you deal with death. That’s how you put it in its place."

I REALLY needed to read this in 2013 when I lost my first close friend from school.

NOW is the second best time to read this.

Thank you.

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Putting death in its place is a life's work... and those friend losses are hard.

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