These notes came to me just as I was watching the news about New Orleans.
Jesus wept😳
Beware of dog as a typo seems pretty apros Fucking po....
On a somewhat lighter note, I think it's a definite that the brokee grows more than the broker! That being said if I did anymore growing as a person due to break ups, I'd be bloody Buddha by now!
Thanks, Michael. I know what you meant about "beware of dog," and I get the implication (despite being a pretty serious Catholic). But, I was also reminded of Gary Larson's Far Side, "Beware of Doug." I tried to past it here, but substack won't let me know. Thanks as always for your good thoughts.
Uh, not sure about the last one about siblings. I mean yes, I can still sometimes feel the mild, unaware condescension when I talk with my older sister (I'm 53, she's 61, for Pete's sake), but it seems to me that my own daughters have managed to develop from "yay, new baby to play with, Imma take care of her" via "ugh the little nettle needs to stay out of my room" to genuine best friends who see eye to eye, enjoy each other's company, and see each other as adults, while being very much aware of the dynamics and subconscious attempts at reverting to big sis-lil sis ... And that makes me wonder how it is with parents and kids, cause again, my own mom tended to make me feel like a child all the way until she passed - and I strive not to do the same with mine. We now laugh about how we first fall into our "roles" when we get together, and then proceed to try and be on the same level. It needs awareness, certainly.
It does, and not all families are the same. And also, those unhelpful feelings usually co-exist with much positive ones (in a way that's rare for "mere" friends) which is what makes family relations such a heady brew...
Agreed. I missed a few of your posts cause full inbox and busy and whatnot, but I like that almost every time you throw out those little birdseed bits of wisdom and musings, at least one of the five makes me think. They're an inspiration, is what I'm trying to say :)
Profound set. Number #4 is so true. We all do better when everyone feels safe. And the last one about siblings sounds familiar, especially if they're closely aged. Parent-child relationships are forced to change. You're constantly readjusting to your child, who's changing faster than you are. But sibling relationships feel fixed in a parallel place set early on. It's interesting watching people revert to their younger selves when they're around a sibling. It's sometimes fun (and sometimes not) when you feel yourself doing it.
VERY interesting point about how those sibling relationships get fix in a "parallel place". Good way of phrasing it. Especially as often while parents will definitely adjust to a particular child changing, they may not adjust their perception of the gaps/roles/heirachy of the kids as a group...
"Looking around the world, and given the nature of human existence, it would make a lot of sense if those signs saying BEWARE OF DOG turned out to be a typo." - Love it. Haven't even read the rest yet...
These notes came to me just as I was watching the news about New Orleans.
Jesus wept😳
Beware of dog as a typo seems pretty apros Fucking po....
On a somewhat lighter note, I think it's a definite that the brokee grows more than the broker! That being said if I did anymore growing as a person due to break ups, I'd be bloody Buddha by now!
Ha :-) And god, yes, just catching up on the NO news...
I hope you mean Buddha as in ppl worshiping your wisdom.😉
That's what I'd like to think but it also seems to my waist size copying him!
I believe your Substack is my favorite
Thank you :)
Thanks, Michael. I know what you meant about "beware of dog," and I get the implication (despite being a pretty serious Catholic). But, I was also reminded of Gary Larson's Far Side, "Beware of Doug." I tried to past it here, but substack won't let me know. Thanks as always for your good thoughts.
Thank you for reading them! And I love that cartoon :)
Interesting thing about siblings.. I’ll have to think about that some more. My brother bought me a new car last year .. out of the blue. 🤔
Whoa.
Uh, not sure about the last one about siblings. I mean yes, I can still sometimes feel the mild, unaware condescension when I talk with my older sister (I'm 53, she's 61, for Pete's sake), but it seems to me that my own daughters have managed to develop from "yay, new baby to play with, Imma take care of her" via "ugh the little nettle needs to stay out of my room" to genuine best friends who see eye to eye, enjoy each other's company, and see each other as adults, while being very much aware of the dynamics and subconscious attempts at reverting to big sis-lil sis ... And that makes me wonder how it is with parents and kids, cause again, my own mom tended to make me feel like a child all the way until she passed - and I strive not to do the same with mine. We now laugh about how we first fall into our "roles" when we get together, and then proceed to try and be on the same level. It needs awareness, certainly.
It does, and not all families are the same. And also, those unhelpful feelings usually co-exist with much positive ones (in a way that's rare for "mere" friends) which is what makes family relations such a heady brew...
Agreed. I missed a few of your posts cause full inbox and busy and whatnot, but I like that almost every time you throw out those little birdseed bits of wisdom and musings, at least one of the five makes me think. They're an inspiration, is what I'm trying to say :)
Profound set. Number #4 is so true. We all do better when everyone feels safe. And the last one about siblings sounds familiar, especially if they're closely aged. Parent-child relationships are forced to change. You're constantly readjusting to your child, who's changing faster than you are. But sibling relationships feel fixed in a parallel place set early on. It's interesting watching people revert to their younger selves when they're around a sibling. It's sometimes fun (and sometimes not) when you feel yourself doing it.
VERY interesting point about how those sibling relationships get fix in a "parallel place". Good way of phrasing it. Especially as often while parents will definitely adjust to a particular child changing, they may not adjust their perception of the gaps/roles/heirachy of the kids as a group...
"Looking around the world, and given the nature of human existence, it would make a lot of sense if those signs saying BEWARE OF DOG turned out to be a typo." - Love it. Haven't even read the rest yet...
:-)